You are on the defensive. At work, an argument with a superior can only go one way, and in the end, you’ll just have to accept it. At home, your partner is keen to take your relationship in a direction you’d rather not. Once again, you dig your heels in and say no. In both cases, you believe things are good the way they are. But actually, the alternatives could turn out to be better than you think. Give it a shot.

By Bernard Fitzwalter; Illustration: Sajid Wajid Shaikh