3 ways to help you boost your self-esteem
Let your confidence do the talking
Whether you’re the CEO of your own company or an Instagram star with a million followers, your journey could not have been possible without battling moments of self-doubt. For some people, these moments can be crippling. Negativity and doubt surround you, and diminish your self-esteem.
Why does this happen? According to Farhana Vohra, business coach and trainer, our tendency to overthink is at the root of this issue. “Thoughts accumulate over time. As we continue to entertain the same thoughts over and over again, they grow. A drop becomes a puddle, a puddle a pond and a pond an ocean.”
You can drown yourself in pool of negativity or rise up in a wave of positive thoughts. Here are 3 ways you can get back your confidence and train your mind to never think less of yourself than what you deserve:
1. Be discerning of your thoughts
It is very important to be able to differentiate between positive thoughts and negative thoughts. “Choose the thoughts that nourish you. It’s only a thought and a thought can be changed: No matter what the problem is, our experiences are just outer effects of our inner thoughts,” shares Vohra. In order to improve your focus, Vohra suggests, “A few minutes every day of quiet reflection, meditation and inner cleansing will bring you maximum clarity. Yoga is a great way to start”.
2. Leave your emotional baggage behind
We often spend time worrying about a future that is uncertain or crib over unsaid and unresolved issues of the past. This overload of thoughts becomes an internal battleground of emotions. In this battle of balancing the past and future, one noticeably looses out on the present. Vohra tells us, “Once you live in today, both these demons disappear. By working towards making each day special and fulfilled, we slowly add quality to our life.”
It is important to look at yourself in the mirror, smile and say one positive thing. It doesn’t sound like a big thing to do but inculcating this into your routine everyday will create a big difference to your confidence. “The longest and truest relationship we have is with ourselves. In loving ourselves, we give back approval and confidence”, shares Vohra.
3. What you believe is what you are
You will have heard this quite often but how many times have you actually practiced it? How many times have you stayed determined enough to keep your thoughts in check and believe in what you really want to do or be? Vohra says, “If you give out love and happiness, you attract it. If you give trust, you get it back. And so on with honesty and truth. Invite all that you want into your life, but without self-doubt.
Get back to acknowledging all the good in your life. Even if it is just 3 out of 5 things in a day that were good, be grateful for them. Be thankful within yourself for anything big or small that happens. “The universe is reactive and the more grateful we are the more abundance we will receive”, believes Vohra.