What's the best sleeping position for couples?


What’s the best sleeping position for couples?

Are you and your partner communicating more asleep than awake?

By ELLE team  April 13th, 2018

Do you sleep facing your partner, on your back or spooning? If you think there’s no such thing as the perfect sleeping position for couples, allow Dr Mehak Nagpal, psychiatrist and sexual medicine expert, to educate you about how the intimacy of your sleeping positions could impact your relationship over time. Especially in the case of a new romance.

“While intimacy can often be faked, there is no conscious control that one can exert on their body language during sleep,” she points out the obvious. So, your partner may actually spilling their guts to you without saying a word. It’s all right there in the way you share a bed.

“The state of your relationship does follow you into the bedroom and influences the way a couple shares the bed. It goes to say that both an individual’s psychological development, as well as the quality of their relationship, affects their innate responses to each other while sleeping.”

Dr Nagpal has noticed several common themes that can be seen across various sleeping positions.

The top sleeping position for couples:

Position: Back to back with slight touching

Meaning: Security

"When both partners are able to give themselves a comfortable amount of space as well as allow some degree of touch and being connected," says Dr Nagpal, "It's is a sign of security in a relationship because both couples are close, yet independent."


Position: Holding each other or tangled

Meaning: Co-dependency

While the high levels of intimacy may be what you're looking for, over time ,this position may not prove to be the healthiest for a relationship. "It can mean an intense over-involvement with each other," says Nagpal. This extreme reliance could prove excessive in the long term, but is still normal at the beginning of a new relationship when emotions are new. 


Position: Spooning

Meaning: Support/ Compliance

"The popular spooning position can often reflect one person offering more comfort to their partner." Who doesn't love to be little spoon? But it is usually the role of the big spoon to offer the support. "Often in a stable relationship, one partner may take a more dominant role and also offer more support to the other who maybe the needier of the two."


Position: Face to face

Meaning: Communication

When the couples face each other touching it usually means there is strong communication between the couples either verbal or non verbal. When they are not touching it usually indicates the need or desire for more communication. If your partner starts facing you there is a good chance tehy are craving more intimacy via communication. 


Position: Head on partner's chest

Meaning: Trust and protection

This position is common amongst new and rekindled romances. The partner lying face up is the confident one and open to offering their protection for their partner. The one rest their head or nuzzling is independent yet fully giving themselves to their partner. It is a position that involves trust from both parties involved  


Position: On your stomach

Meaning: Lack of trust/ A feeling of vulnerability

Sleeping on your stomach indicates a body closed off. This positions indicates lack of trust and a feeling of vulnerability, which could also be sexual in nature. Since all parts of the body are turned towards the mattress it could be for one party to want to protect themselves. it could indicate signs of fear and anxiety as well. If you notice you or your partner sleeping liek this you may want to have an open and honest conversation to improve intimacy