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Beyoncé’s profound words on raising her daughters will inspire every young woman

Plus, the kind of man she's raising her son to be

By ELLE team  August 6th, 2018

In her brutally honest interview with an international fashion magazine, Beyoncé revealed she was on bed rest for a full month before giving birth to Sir and Rumi Carter and had an emergency C-section because her and their lives were in danger. As she put it:

I was 218 pounds the day I gave birth to Rumi and Sir. I was swollen from toxemia and had been on bed rest for over a month. My health and my babies’ health were in danger, so I had an emergency C-section. We spent many weeks in the NICU. My husband was a soldier and such a strong support system for me. I am proud to have been a witness to his strength and evolution as a man, a best friend, and a father. I was in survival mode and did not grasp it all until months later.

Today I have a connection to any parent who has been through such an experience. After the C-section, my core felt different. It had been major surgery. Some of your organs are shifted temporarily, and in rare cases, removed temporarily during delivery. I am not sure everyone understands that. I needed time to heal, to recover. During my recovery, I gave myself self-love and self-care, and I embraced being curvier. I accepted what my body wanted to be. After six months, I started preparing for Coachella. I became vegan temporarily, gave up coffee, alcohol, and all fruit drinks. But I was patient with myself and enjoyed my fuller curves. My kids and husband did, too.

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The singer also spoke about how she wants her children to be: “It’s important to me that they [my daughters] see themselves as CEOs, as bosses, and that they know they can write the script for their own lives—that they can speak their minds and they have no ceiling,” Beyoncé said. “They don’t have to be a certain type or fit into a specific category. They don’t have to be politically correct, as long as they’re authentic, respectful, compassionate, and empathetic. They can explore any religion, fall in love with any race, and love who they want to love. I want the same things for my son. I want him to know that he can be strong and brave but that he can also be sensitive and kind. I want my son to have a high emotional IQ where he is free to be caring, truthful, and honest. It’s everything a woman wants in a man, and yet we don’t teach it to our boys.”

“I hope to teach my son not to fall victim to what the internet says he should be or how he should love,” she continued. “I want to create better representations for him so he is allowed to reach his full potential as a man, and to teach him that the real magic he possesses in the world is the power to affirm his own existence.”


Powerful feminist statements from your favourite celebrities to serve as your bosslady mantra

Frances McDormand

Frances McDormand didn’t just accept her award at the Oscars and give the conventional thank you speech. Best Actress winner McDormand got all her female colleagues in the audience to stand up and then urged all the male Hollywood bosses to ensure they didn't just offer platitudes and lip service to the women, but actually followed up with job offers and projects. Frances coined the term ‘inclusion rider’ which means that men in power should do their part to make sure deserving women get their due.


Mark Wahlberg

In line with the ‘inclusion rider’ theme, Mark Wahlberg made a bold statement when he donated $1.5 million in Michelle Williams’ name to the #TimesUp legal fund. That was the exact difference between their pay slips while working on All The Money In The World reshoots. “I 100% support the fight for fair pay and I’m donating the $1.5 million to the Time’s Up Legal Defence Fund in Michelle Williams’ name,” said Wahlberg about the gross difference in pay.

Sonam Kapoor

Sonam Kapoor has been a long time fighter for feminist values, even writing an essay on what feminism means to her. In a recent press conference, a female reporter asked why she had deleted a picture of Deepika Padukone promoting PadMan from her Instagram. Sonam, who had done no such thing, found it ridiculous that the reporter would even try and stir up a problem where there was none. "I can't imagine a woman is asking me these questions... do you not like other women? Don't create controversy where there is none. I expect a woman to support other women, not create these situations. So support other women, so we can all move forward," Sonam said, schooling anyone watching and trying to tear women down.


Reese Witherspoon

Fed-up with the lack of empowered female roles Reese Witherspoon saw around her, the actress decided to take a stand by starting her own production company with the mission to tell stories about women. She even put her own money into it. The production company has been a success, producing women-centric stories like Wild and Big Little Lies.


Deepika Padukone

"You can feel a sense of 'am I stepping over the line, do I deserve it?' But if you believe you deserve it, then you do," the actress said, while addressing the issue of the pay gap. Deepika confirmed that she demanded what she thought she was worth for Padmaavat, whether or not it surpassed that of what her co-stars were making. “I think you should get what you think you deserve. It's okay to fight for it, and it's okay to feel uncomfortable initially, because that's just the way we've been made to feel for so long." 


Kristen Stewart

Kristen Stewart recently walked a red carpet at Cannes and mid-way through, took off her heels to walk up the staircase. Heels are rumoured to be a mandatory part of the Cannes red carpet dress code and Stewart was having none of it. "If [a man and I] were walking the red carpet together and someone stopped me and said, ‘Excuse me, young lady, you’re not wearing heels. You cannot come in,’ then [I’m going to say], ‘Neither is my friend. Does he have to wear heels?’” she said about the incident. “It can work both ways. It’s just like you simply cannot ask me to do something that you are not asking him. I get the black-tie thing but you should be able to do either version — flats or heels.”


Rhea Kapoor

When producing Veere Di Wedding, Rhea Kapoor was convinced Kareena Kapoor Khan was perfect for one of the roles and signed her onto the project. Shortly after, Kareena discovered she was pregnant and offered to drop out. It was at that point that Rhea said she would put the project on hold and resume filming after Kareena's pregnancy, awarding Kareena the opportunity of being an example to working mothers. It's not often women get the choice between career and family, we hope Rhea's example will be followed by other producers.