What you can learn from these celebrity breakups
A lesson in moving on
Celebrity breakups are just as painful — if not more — than regular people’s heartaches. Living out your relationship in the public eye isn’t easy, with people constantly watching you and projecting their judgements and expectations on to your love life. But like us, they try and distract themselves, work through it and even share their experiences.
While they may think we’re in it just for the gossip, there is a lot their fans learn from watching a celebrity relationship end. Like when Alia Bhatt exclaimed there’s nothing worse than bad breakup advice. “I hate it when people tell you to try and distract yourself. That’s very lame.” Priyanka Chopra echoes Alia’s thoughts, admitting that she doesn’t believe in hiding from heartbreak. “I don’t run away from my problems. I believe in facing them,” she admits. After breaking up with John Abraham, her long-term partner, Bipasha Basu had our empathy when she admitted, “No breakup is ever amicable. Otherwise, no one would break up. There are always reasons.”
So what can the lessons learnt from these celebrity breakups teach you about navigating love in your own life? Read on
Celebrity breakups and the lessons they’ve taught us:
The actor has gone on record to say that until about 26 years old, he was quite promiscuous. But that's all changed now. Clearly, it's something he learned from his past relationships. "Sex is much better when there’s love involved,” Ranveer admitted in his last appearance on Koffee with Karan. "Sometimes a good relationship can teach you as much as a bad breakup." Clearly, Ranveer has realised that being in a fulfilling, monogamous relationship has its benefits. "There’s nothing good about being single, it’s an empty feeling," he admits.
After ending things with Ranbir Kapoor, the actress seemed heartbroken. And as anyone who has had their heart smashed into little pieces will tell you, heartbreak makes you introspective. In an interview with GQ, Katrina Kaif admitted what she realised after the relationship came to an end. "I don’t think I can make such claims, because were it selfless love, then I wouldn’t feel the need to assert myself as much in the relationship. I would be more tolerant. I don’t want to be tolerant. I don’t want to accept it, I want to fight. I want to get what I think I deserve." Katrina Kaif realised that even if you love somebody, you shouldn't compromise on what you want or expect out of a relationship. Instead, everybody should get what they feel they deserve.
Deepika Padukone has always hinted at the infidelity she experienced while in a relationship with Ranbir Kapoor. Bt what she rarely ever brings up is the insecurity it made her feel, like the cheating was a result of her doing something wrong or being inadequate. "The first time he cheated on me, I thought there was something wrong with the relationship, or me. But when someone makes a habit of it, you know the problem lies with him. I give a lot in relationships, and don't really expect much in return. But, infidelity is the deal breaker. Once it comes in, respect goes away, trust goes away and these are the pillars of a relationship you can't f*ck around with it."
Like most things in her life, Priyanka Chopra says she likes to deal with her heartbreak head on. The actress claims she was in a long distance relationship and when it ended, she didn't use the distance as an excuse to hide from her problems. “The heartache? No, I come back to Mumbai every three minutes. I need an excuse, please bring me back. All that doesn’t make a difference, I don’t run away from my problems. I believe in facing them. So, if your heart hurts, you have to look into what is causing you heartache. The day it stops hurting is when you’ll be over with it.”
When Sushant's engagement to his former fiancé broke off, it's all the gossip columns would discuss. As a couple, the two rarely hid their relationship, so naturally the public felt entitled to their breakup as well. “There is nothing to learn. Now I have decided that if and when I get into a relationship, I won’t discuss it with everybody. So that when the breakup happens, it doesn’t become a public breakup. It remains a personal breakup.” Though he might think he didn't learn anything, that's exactly what the relationship taught him, not to get other people involved in it.
Sometimes, like in the case of Bipasha Basu and John Abraham, a couple is together for so long when it ends, there's no scope for it to be amicable. When time and effort is invested at that level and doesn't culminate in something concrete, more often that not, things tend to go sour. “No. It was definitely not amicable. No breakup is ever amicable. Otherwise, no one would break up. There are always reasons. Otherwise, there won’t be any breakups,” she pointed out in an interview. But even after the decade long relationship, Basu picked herself up and got on with it. “I believe everything negative that happens in your life is for a positive reason. If your heart breaks, you know that you are a human being and it happens. But you can’t mope over it. There’s only one life. You better get on ahead and fast. Fast enough not to let your past ever catch up with you.” It would seem like that's exactly what she did.
Alia Bhatt sadly informs us that there is no quick fix to breaking up. And to make matters worse everyone will add their two bits to it, which at the time will make no sense to you. “I hate it when people tell you to try and distract yourself. That’s very lame. It is temporary. Nobody’s found a cure for heartbreak. If they had, the world would be a much happier place.” Alia suggests being patient and waiting out the heartbreak. But the actress did also suggest working out and immersing herself in her work outs for endorphin release. We're not sure if she realised it but distracting herself with a fitness goals is exactly what the actress did.