I’m a woman who thoroughly enjoys her orgasms (I mean, who doesn’t?) almost always with her trusted toys. Clitoral orgasms? Check. Vaginal Orgasms? G-Spot Orgasm? Check. Blended orgasm? Also, check. However, one orgasm I always believed to be a famed myth, was the nipple orgasm. Until I felt myself almost having one recently. As a grown adult who wasn’t entirely convinced about nipple orgasms being actual orgasms, so you can imagine my shock when I almost had one. I say almost because I almost had it there, and poof, it was gone in a jiffy!
Now that I’m certain about the reality of nipple orgasms, I’m going to do everything in my power to make sure I climax with one the next time. I mean, all of the other orgasms are fun but I believe there’s something rather thrilling about your nipples being stimulated to climax. After all, sexual exploration allows us to dip our toes into different ways of pleasuring ourselves
Understanding nipple orgasms
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Our body has a bunch of erogenous zones everywhere. Erogenous zones are certain parts of your body that have heightened sensitivity and can increase sexual arousal when stimulated—such as your neck and your inner thighs. The nipples are also an erogenous zone of the body and always elicit a response when stimulated. If you haven’t experienced this yourself, there’s plenty of research which proves that the nipples are one of the primary erogenous zones.
Now when this particular erogenous zone is stimulated, the sexual response is elicited because of the brain’s sensory cortex. A little science lesson from the research paper above helped me understand this better. A vast network of nerve endings connects our brain to our body and this network is responsible for all of the communication that takes place within our body. So naturally, when an erogenous zone like the nipples is stimulated, our brain lets our body know that this is a good feeling, allowing our genitals to feel the same.
Dr Justin Lehmiller, social psychologist and doctor had an insightful opinion on his podcast, Sex and Psychology about nipple orgasms. He was in conversation with Dr Barry Komisaruk, a professor of psychology and co-author of The Science of Orgasm. They discussed that, contrary to popular belief, genital stimulation isn’t the only prerequisite for a toe-curling orgasm. According to them, nipple stimulation is a catalyst for achieving an orgasm. Dr Barry conducted an experiment where women were asked to stimulate their nipples and through brain mapping, he pinpointed the areas of the brain that sent a signal to the body. This experiment revealed that the brains of these women reacted in the same way to nipple orgasms the way they would with clitoral or vaginal orgasms.
Here’s how you can prep your body to achieve a nipple orgasm
Experiment with your own body first: Before you try achieving a nipple orgasm with your partner, make sure you attempt to learn how your body works. Touching your breasts and nipples will allow you to identify the kind of touch and sensations you enjoy. Take the time to carefully notice what arouses your body, this could be gentle tugs or rougher strokes.
Communicate with your partner: When you bring a partner into the equation, clear and crisp communication should be your top priority. With multiple ways to stimulate the nipples, your partner may need a little guidance about what feels best. This is a major factor that contributed to my ‘almost’ nipple orgasm with my partner.
Introduce temperature play: Temperature play is an exciting way to elevate nipple stimulation, especially if your nipples are highly sensitive. Using heated massage oils or even ice cubes on your nipples can arouse them, ultimately leading you to climax.
Don’t be afraid to use toys: Adding toys to the mix in an attempt to intensify sensations in your nipples is always a good idea. If you’re a beginner, suction-based toys that are usually meant for the clitoris are a great way to enhance sexual arousal. However, if you’re feeling a tad bit spicier, try using nipple clamps.
Stimulate other erogenous zones simultaneously: Even though we’re focusing on achieving a nipple orgasm here, no rule says the other erogenous zones of your body can’t be stimulated. I found that stimulating my clitoris and my nipples one after the other was something that made the arousal experience so much better.
Nipple orgasms are certainly real and something I can’t wait to discover more of. However, always remember that it’s entirely alright if your body doesn’t climax. Your focus should be on feeling pleasure and enjoying with your partner, or by yourself.
