As a member of Generation Z (Gen Z), I’ve seen (sadly not experienced) the ups and downs of long-distance relationships. When my friend announced she was relocating to another country for her studies, the first question everyone asked was, “How will you manage your relationship?” It seems like our generation, always connected through technology, finds it hard to embrace the idea of love from afar. But then, one day, I spotted a girl having a virtual lunch date with her boyfriend, both sitting in different cities but sharing the same meal over a video call. It was a sweet moment that made me think about the challenges and joys of long-distance dating.
While our parents and older siblings – the millennials as we call them – were used to long-distance relationships (thanks to handwritten letters), we have different expectations. With everything available at the swipe of a finger, it’s easy to question why we should put ourselves through the torture of a long-distance relationship. However, if you’ve found someone special who lives far away, why not make it work? Here are some key things you need to remember for long-distance relationships.
Be intentional
Being intentional is crucial in a long-distance relationship. It requires commitment and a clear understanding of what you’re getting into. Discussing future goals with your partner is important, as well as ensuring you’re both on the same page about where the relationship is heading. Defining your relationship is also essential; make sure you understand what being in a long-distance relationship means, including exclusivity and how you define your bond. Don’t start one casually and then bail when it gets tough or boring. Instead, have an honest conversation with your partner about how you both feel about the distance and what you expect from each other.
Communicate
Communication is the backbone of any relationship, but it becomes even more critical when you’re miles apart. Scheduling regular check-ins can help maintain a routine, giving you both something to look forward to. Mixing up your communication methods —video calls, voice messages, and texts—can keep things fresh and engaging. Sharing the details of your daily life, big or small, helps create a sense of normalcy and keeps you connected to each other’s experiences.
Apart from the daily catching-up and yapping, be open about your feelings, insecurities, and any issues. Talk with your partner when you’re having a bad day, and talk about how you want to be consoled. Avoid the guessing game; if you want something, say it! This clarity will help reduce stress and strain on the relationship and make things easier for both of you.
Be Cringe
Let’s face it: couples can be a bit cringe, which shouldn’t change just because you’re in a long-distance relationship. Embracing the weirdness can strengthen your bond. Creating inside jokes or developing silly phrases that only you two understand adds a layer of intimacy and fun to your conversations. Don’t be afraid to have virtual dates, send goofy selfies, or even feed your partner through the screen. Embrace the silliness and find fun ways to connect, even if it feels awkward.
Plan Fun Activities
Make an effort to plan enjoyable daily activities to keep the relationship exciting. Starting a book club can be a great way to bond and share your thoughts on a chosen book during your video calls. Stream your favourite shows together, play online games, cook together or sing a duet karaoke virtually. The goal is to find creative ways to stay close, even when you’re far apart. My favourite would be sending sweet emails to your partner when they’re at work to brighten up their day amidst the stress.
While long-distance relationships can be challenging, they also come with some pros. For starters, they often encourage more vital communication skills. When you can’t rely on physical presence, you learn to express your feelings and thoughts more openly. Additionally, being apart can foster a sense of independence, allowing both partners to grow individually while still supporting each other. Long-distance relationships often lead to deeper emotional connections as you focus on getting to know each other on a more profound level. The anticipation of seeing each other can make the time spent together even more special and memorable. So, fellow Gen Zers, don’t shy away from the adventure of long-distance dating. Who knows? You might end up with a love story that proves distance is no match for a strong connection.
